The Principles of Discernment
Discernment. An often used word, but what does it really mean? Its root is a Latin word that means “to separate,” “to sift through,” “to sort out,” and “to distinguish.” As we discern we are called to sort and sift—not just with our mind but with our hearts.
Discernment is a decision made out of love. It is reason informed by love. Discernment is sometimes called “Christian decision-making,” but the definition I most like is that discernment is seeing with the eye of the heart so that allows us to choose more abundant life in God.”
It is important to note that discernment isn’t some separate compartment of my life, but rather it’s the ground on which everything else stands. Therefore, I’m called to live in such a way that the fact that I am a daughter of God and a sister of Jesus–and therefore of all people– actually shapes and colors and governs all my decisions—both small and great. Our choices shape our lives and our choices shape who we will become. To take this job rather than that one or to choose to be in relationship with this person right now—these choices will help determine who I am in ten years. The choice forms who I am. It shapes my future.
As we look at discernment and reflect on our lives, there are three basic principles to follow. The first is to reflect on our experience. This is an essential dynamic for discernment to take place. We are called to realize that every experience of our lives, from the most ordinary to the deeply spiritual, is suitable matter for us to consider and reflect upon as we discern.
The second principle is that we need to discover the action of God in our lives. How aware am I of God’s actions in my life? How has God been at work in me today? What do I need to do in order to better see God’s actions at work in my life?
The third principle is also important: to move toward a choice and take action. It can be tempting to stay on the fence forever–to never make a move for fear of making the wrong move. At some point, though, we have to jump– one way or another. Sitting on the fence, afraid to jump, isn’t a very pleasant place to stay for very long. If you find yourself sitting on the fence, take a risk and jump. Then, see what happens. How do you feel? Do you find a sense of peace after you’ve made the jump?
In all discernment, it is important to keep our eyes focused on God, to pray and to ask for guidance. As you continue to discern your call in life, ask God for light and courage, and insight. Ask for peace. Ask to be shown the way that will lead you to be the person God created you to be.